Just Do You – Bonus Post with Download

Just do you – bonus post with download!

I wanted to leave you with some positive thoughts while I’m gone for the first few weeks of December, and in that timely way that the Universe does, a friend sent me this list of “Things to Remember” (see below).

I also made it into a PDF (here: Things to Remember) so that you can pull up and print off to read it each day. (It now lives beside my computer at work, along with a beautiful Mark Nepo poem I might share someday…)

It was an email, forwarded through workstations around the world, and sadly I do not know who to credit for this list. However, these are great things to remember and I feel that in sharing them the author will be rewarded with the love it evoked within me and within you as well 🙂

There are so many great points to remember on this list, and all of them resonate with me on a level that makes my heart go “YES!”, but my favourite among them is this very simple one: Continue reading Just Do You – Bonus Post with Download

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Off the grid

Off the grid…!

From Tuesday 3 December until Thursday 12 December I will be off the technological communication grid!

There will be no tweets, no likes, no posts, no blasts, no emails, no texts, no phone calls.

It’s my birthday hiatus…, in the form of a cruise ship, plus a few days with a good friend in Ontario before embarking on my voyage.

For eight blissful days the beautiful Carnival Splendor will be my home as we sail from New York to the Bahamas and the only mode of communication for me will be to actually talk to other humans!

What?! Imagine! 🙂

Don’t get me wrong, I’m still taking a whole lot of technology with me – Continue reading Off the grid

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What could you achieve in 10 years if you started today?

It’s been a whirlwind week and I apologize for the lack of posts on the usual topic of impending adoption and parenthood.

However, if you will humour me – I have spent an inordinate amount of time this week thinking about the topic of my heading.

What could you achieve in 10 years if you started today?

Gaining Citizenship last week was an incredible feat for me. It is the first thing in my entire life that I’ve really wanted to achieve and followed through on the achieving of it – even though it took a long time.

It’s the first time I have ever set out with the hope of achieving something, kept my faith that I would achieve it, allowed people and situations to come into my life to help me achieve it, leapt forward with blind faith (sometimes pure arrogance) toward the goal even when the end was not in sight, filled in every form, took passport photo after passport photo as per the requirements, and showed extreme patience waiting for the end result.

And it paid off.

Here is a bit of a timeline on my Citizenship journey for interest: Continue reading What could you achieve in 10 years if you started today?

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O Canada – My home forevermore

Today I became an official Canadian Citizen!!!

I say official, because in my heart I’ve been Canadian since I first set foot on Canadian soil in 2003. It took 10 years to take the oath, and today is one of the proudest moments in my life.

This has been an amazing day.

I was one of 70 people sworn in as Citizens today from 30 countries from around the world.

The ceremony was beautiful, the words spoken heartfelt. When it was my turn to say my name, I choked up. When we all took the oath together in that room (in French and English) I shed tears. The feeling in the room was enormous, the emotion vibrating through us all was palpable.

10 years ago when I left Australia, Continue reading O Canada – My home forevermore

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Adoption – Second Home Study

Expectant Mother – Adoption Journey Series…

The Second Home Study

Full-disclosure. Rape, Alcohol, Pot, Sexual History, Relationships…

The second home study came a few weeks after the first, and I felt a little less nerve-wracked than the first time… but only a little.

These meetings are important, I understand that and I feel grateful that they are a part of the process. There is a lot of food for thought in these meetings.

After the last one, I was also feeling excited about getting to discuss what to expect from the adoption process, to discuss things with Theresa like – how the matching process works, how the first meeting works, how we get to a first meeting with children, what happens after that, who else is involved in the matching process, and more practical things like – where to move, which schools were good ones, what kind of things I will need to have in place, and is there anything else I should know?

Since the beginning there has been a lot of information about the potential problems that the children may have emotionally or physically, and the ‘need for a good support structure’, but the practical stuff has not really been covered.

Perhaps these are the things I need to work out on my own? Perhaps all future parents wonder about these things and seek advice?

So I was looking forward to this meeting.

However, this home study was not as pleasant as the first home study. Continue reading Adoption – Second Home Study

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Adoption – A Clean Slate

Expectant Mother – Adoption Journey Series…

A Clean Slate

I feel as though I’m seeing the world through new eyes, I’m noticing things around me that I never noticed before from the perspective of a parent, I’m delving into myself more than ever before (which is saying something…who knew I could “delve” any more than before!). I am writing everything down. What I’m feeling, what I’m noticing, the conversations I’m having, the fantasies I run in my head….AND the type of parent I want to be.

As I’m sure many, if not all expectant mothers do – I am trying to work out my “stuff” so that I can come to my future kids fresh, clean, and ready to be the best I can be, so I can encourage and nurture the best they can be.

A clean slate.

I’m spending a lot of time in every day, bringing myself back to a position of “the parent I want to be”, and thinking about the things that come up for me that I don’t want to bring into the relationship with my children.

I deeply want to lead by example and be able to show my children how to move forward in life without being anchored to the past. I want to show them how to move forward in this day, this moment, this millisecond, and garner the most joy from life…NOW.

In order to do that, I have to live it.

When I catch myself feeling frustrated, or angry, or uncertain, or scared, I ask: “Now that I’m here (wherever here is), what are my options for moving forward and feeling as best I can feel?”

I feel as though the time to be a great parent, a great example, is now.

Continue reading Adoption – A Clean Slate

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Happy Week After Halloween

Happy Halloween!!!

Hope you all had an OOky, spOOky night last week for Halloween!

Halloween is one of the many “holidays” that I look forward to spending with my children. (“” for is it really a holiday when we all have to work?)

Like Thanksgiving, Halloween as an “occasion” (perhaps, rather than a holiday!) is one that is relatively new to me as a former Australian.

The only thing we knew of Halloween when I was growing up was the scary movies with Jamie Lee Curtis (still angry at my friend’s mom for letting us watch the first two of these along with a delightful movie called “worm eater” on her 10th birthday… I had nightmares well into my 20’s). It was not something we celebrated and I never got to go door to door dressed in colourful costumes with a bag in hand and exclaim “Trick or Treat!?!”.

My very first Halloween experience was in Toronto in 2003, my first year in Canada, and it was WILD!

Halloween was not just for children I discovered…

Continue reading Happy Week After Halloween

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