Adoption – Therapy

When my social worker suggested an impromptu meeting after the second home study, I knew there was likely a ‘ruling’ from the things that were revealed.

To recap the second home study delved further into some of my background, where we discussed things like rape, my mother, being kicked out of home at 16, and some of the relationships I’d had since then.

At this meeting, my social worker suggested that to show that I’d come through all of those things and was now in this moment a healthy, stable, safe, option for an adoption placement, therapy would be required.

She asked me if I would consider this? Continue reading Adoption – Therapy

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When I became my own best friend…

Guest Post for Create Write Now

It is such an honour to be invited to guest post on another person’s blog. It is an even greater honour when the blog is not only a site that provides heartfelt advice for personal transformation, but is also about a topic close to my heart.

This week I got to write a guest post for Create Write Now.

Create Write Now focuses on changing your life through the medium of Journal writing. This is an inspired site created by Mari L. McCarthy, who is an author, coach, guide, mentor, journal writer, and musician.

I have been journaling (almost) daily since 2003 and found my greatest friend in the process.

Here is my post:

When I became my own best friend…

“In 2003, after years of dreaming about it, I changed my life by embarking on a solo adventure from Australia to Canada with the intention of moving countries permanently…”   Read the full post here.

If you have never written in a journal or have not thought of using your existing practice of Journaling to change your life, check out Mari’s site. You will find a stream of information on using this wonderful practice to connect with your best you. Something – I feel – we should all strive for in this short lifetime.

Whether you are interested in changing or enhancing your career, losing weight, unleashing your inner creative god/goddess, or connecting with the deepest parts of yourself, Mari has the tools to do this.

Please take a moment to visit her site, as I am sure you will find at least one key to open your life to new, exciting, possibilities…

Warm smiles and Love,

Ali Jayne 🙂

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Time to switch off the TV

February – TV has reached it’s limit!

I have to admit. I love TV.

Not just TV shows, though I love them too, but my actual TV. I love the big screen, the fact that it plays (with my direct request of course, not by itself!) all of my favourite movies, shows, and an occasional game. I love that it’s always there, always ready, always providing background noise when I need it. I love that I can pause, rewind, fast-forward, and record (OK so that’s my digital box, but you get the picture!)…

I love TV.

However, as I move toward becoming a mom, I feel like there are many things I want to achieve before that happens. I want some momentum in my creative life (writing/editing) so that when we are united I will have developed habits that will *I hope* continue well into our future. Continue reading Time to switch off the TV

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Adoption – Courses – Attachment Conclusion

Expectant Mother – Adoption Journey Series…

ATTACHMENT IN ADOPTION

Conclusion: the parts that resonated most with me.

(Read Part 1 here, or Part 2 here or Part 3 here)

Online course offered by AFABC
Presented by Andrea Chatwin, MA, CCC
Hosted by Erin Melvin, AFABC

Children are adaptable:

Thank goodness for this understanding and this discussion. I am extremely thankful to be learning about this now and not back when it was believed a child was doomed!

Always keep this in mind when things are difficult.

With Love, patience, understanding, good tools and security, your child will adapt and change.

Be patient, allow your child to grow at the pace that feels safe and secure to them, never make them feel like they are letting you down.

Don’t react!

Continue reading Adoption – Courses – Attachment Conclusion

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Adoption – Calling all Moms… I need advice!

When should I start putting my kids’ future first?

Quick note from Ali: Calling all Dads too! I don’t want to discourage those of you who are Dads out there from responding to this call!

As you know, I do not yet have children but am hoping to become a mom through adoption this year.

I am currently in the planning stages for a vacation with two of my best girlfriends in March.

The three of us currently live in three different countries and have not been together in the same space for 11 years!! Though we have been together two at a time over the years, and we have all continued to share our lives via email, Facebook, and Skype. We have been there for all of the ups and downs that life has thrown at us, and will likely be for life. We are family.

I am ecstatic about this “reunion” vacation and getting to hug my friends, laugh with them, see them in person, and drink some wine! It’s our “year-past 40th birthday celebrations” that we meant to have the year of our 40th birthdays last year and missed… due to life.

Here is my dilemma: Continue reading Adoption – Calling all Moms… I need advice!

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Adoption – Courses – Attachment part three

Expectant Mother – Adoption Journey Series…

ATTACHMENT IN ADOPTION

THREE-PART SERIES – Part 3

(Read Part 1 here, or Part 2 here)

Online course offered by AFABC
Presented by Andrea Chatwin, MA, CCC
Hosted by Erin Melvin, AFABC

Rider: My notes here are written as the sessions flowed for me and are about the subjects that caught my attention. These sessions and discussions were often driven by the course participants and their questions. If you are considering this course, I would recommend doing all three sessions so as not to miss out on information that might be raised by another participant and an “a-ha” moment for your situation.

Session #3

This session was all about forming a positive secure attachment with your child.

Once a match has been made and you know that you are committed to being the forever family for your child, how do you show the child that you have made that commitment?

Especially when they have likely experienced many disappointments in their short lives.

The Practical:

Some of the ideas that were suggested: Continue reading Adoption – Courses – Attachment part three

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