What I learned as a caregiver…

What I learned while caring for the broken

During the first few weeks of care for Greyson, I learned so much about my little fur-baby and his personality.

Most interesting though, is what I learned about me and my personality. Continue reading What I learned as a caregiver…

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Mom Triggers

Even with adoption no longer feeling imminent, every part of my life I try to translate into a lesson I can learn to either understand my potential future adopted children, or I can use to help them through their own tough times. (and maybe even help me become a good mom!)

Last week was my birthday.

And what would a birthday be without a mom trigger? Continue reading Mom Triggers

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2nd Adoption Networking Event (ANE)

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Last week I attended my second ANE (Adoption Networking Event) this year in the lower mainland of BC.

I would like to start by saying a HUGE thank you to those people who work tirelessly to put together events such as this, the social workers, guardianship workers, and all of their support workers, the AFABC social workers and support workers, and the Wendy’s Wonderful Kids workers. And to anyone else missing from this list who contributed to making the day possible.

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you!

Events such as these give hope to waiting parents, and give us an outlet for the voice that feels unheard some of the time during the waiting stage.

I would also like to do a quick shout out of thanks to the emcee of the day, the same emcee as earlier this year. She once again did an amazing job at keeping the momentum of the event running smoothly, using humour when needed, and allowing people to find their own voice. She is a gifted host and a lovely person.

And one final shout out of thanks to my own SW who was in attendance and made me feel that I had someone at my back all day. It was great to get to catch up with her and talk a little about where I am at and what I’m hoping for in adoption as of now.

Many thanks to all… Continue reading 2nd Adoption Networking Event (ANE)

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Adoption Stats

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Last Friday there was an Adoption Networking Event in Victoria, BC.

While I wasn’t able to attend this year, I had some other pre-adoptive parent friends who attended and gave me updates.

One parent friend sent me messages throughout the day on the different kids profiled and it was great to feel like I was still participating. Thank you!

It seemed that there were a lot of younger kids profiled from what I heard compared to last year. And that made me wish I’d been able to attend. Continue reading Adoption Stats

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Sick Kitty = Weepy Mom

My kitty cat, Greyson, is teaching me what I will be like as a mom.

Or at least what I might be like – because a mostly self-sufficient, independent cat is a totally different experience to a child, I do understand this.

This past weekend he got sick, and I cried.

On Saturday evening I was resting on the couch while watching a movie, (Blended, with Drew Barrymore and Adam Sandler, a cute movie), and Greyson came and snuggled into one of my feet. His arm and paw around my foot like so:

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My heart expanded with happy feelings of love for him.

About 30 minutes later, Continue reading Sick Kitty = Weepy Mom

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2nd Be My Parent Event

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Saturday I went to my second Be My Parent matching event.

This is one of the smaller events, where they set up separate stations of the kids being profiled with laptops playing video or slideshows, along with a one page information sheet that is available to take home.

There were about 18 stations set up, spread out over 3 different rooms.

The event ran for 2 hours on two separate days (one weekday evening, one weekend day).

I went to the weekend day timeslot and arrived at the beginning – 11am. I found that my SW was there when I arrived and was so grateful! Thank you T for being there 🙂

Quite a few potential parents were milling around when I arrived, and it was a bit crowded in the main room.

I was in no hurry to be anywhere else Continue reading 2nd Be My Parent Event

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Profiles to consider

Last week my SW sent me two emails with profiles of children to consider.

Yay! Made my heart skip a beat to see these emails pop up and I feel a glimpse of hope.

One of the emails had photos attached. I have to admit I looked at the photos before I read the information, and wow… Cute! Oh my goodness, this little guy was melt-your-heart-cute! His face made me smile instantly.

Then I read his profile. Continue reading Profiles to consider

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Parental Attachment Style in Adoption

Webinar – July 28, 2015

I want to send a big thank you shout out to Dawn Davenport and the team at Creating a Family, as well as Dr. Dan Siegel (http://www.drdansiegel.com/books_and_more/) for giving their time and energy to create this webinar/workshop that I was fortunate to attend.

Thank you all for making this webinar not only happen, but also making it available free of charge!!

Anything attachment related is such valuable information, and to have been given the opportunity to attend for free was a wonderful gift. Continue reading Parental Attachment Style in Adoption

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Distance from the path

it-feels-as-though-IveRecently we had an annual festival in my town, and I am heavily involved both at an organisational committee level and as a volunteer through the weekend.

This time I was also “official photographer” for the festival website.

What was interesting to me this year which differed from the last few years was that I did not connect the festivities with my future adoption. Continue reading Distance from the path

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Should I become a foster mom?

The-foster-parents-I (1)This is a question I have asked myself since the very first conversation I had about adoption nearly 3 years ago. The person I was talking with was a foster care social worker and encouraged me to consider foster care as well as adoption.

She told me about the large need for foster homes in my community, which I have to admit, surprised me. I live in a relatively small town, with a relatively ‘small-town’ mentality (everyone knows someone who knows everyone), and it had never occurred to me that there would be a need for foster parents so much as to be a lack of them.

At that time becoming a foster parent didn’t appeal to me except as a possibility for the distant future, though I will admit, I didn’t know much about foster parenting, nor had I met a foster parent (at least not knowingly).

Since then, Continue reading Should I become a foster mom?

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