2nd Be My Parent Event

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Saturday I went to my second Be My Parent matching event.

This is one of the smaller events, where they set up separate stations of the kids being profiled with laptops playing video or slideshows, along with a one page information sheet that is available to take home.

There were about 18 stations set up, spread out over 3 different rooms.

The event ran for 2 hours on two separate days (one weekday evening, one weekend day).

I went to the weekend day timeslot and arrived at the beginning – 11am. I found that my SW was there when I arrived and was so grateful! Thank you T for being there 🙂

Quite a few potential parents were milling around when I arrived, and it was a bit crowded in the main room.

I was in no hurry to be anywhere else Continue reading 2nd Be My Parent Event

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Adoption – Staying Open

Staying-open-can-beOne of the challenges in this adoption process is staying open to the possibilities and not closing your heart after the first (or second, or third, or fourth) heartbreak.

I struggled with this for a few months after the planned placement with H&B fell through. At first I tried to tell myself I was OK, because the decision was mine to step back and say “this is not a good match for anyone involved” and I felt it was a good decision, the right decision.

What I didn’t expect at that time was that eventually the loss of the dream of the family I imagined we would be would catch up with me, and I would feel grief. Continue reading Adoption – Staying Open

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Be My Parent – Matching Event

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Saturday, I attended my second adoption matching event.

This event was smaller and more intimate than the last one I attended.

In the entry foyer there were refreshments and pastries and a video running on a loop from the Dave Thomas Foundation reminding us all that “unadoptable is unacceptable”.

Inside the main room there were separate stations consisting of poster boards and laptops that ran a slideshow of the children being profiled at that station.

However, there were only 11 stations, with a total of 13 children profiled. Two of the stations profiled a sibling group of two.

I have to admit I was equally disappointed in the number of children profiled and grateful for the opportunity to see even 13 profiles with photos and information. Continue reading Be My Parent – Matching Event

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My evening as a sitter

Last week I babysat for two wonderful kids, a boy aged 7, and a girl aged 4 (nearly 5 – as she told me all night!).

It’s been about 5 years since I babysat kids that age.

I arrived at 5pm and the kids were hiding in the closet…playing of course! I brought pizza with me and that lured them out as it is one of their favourite foods! (good choice!) Continue reading My evening as a sitter

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Two becomes…none.

I-learn-from-thisThe adoption of H & B has fallen through.

Fallen through appears to be the accepted term.

What happened…?

Last week I had commented in my reply to an email with the foster mom (we’d been in constant two-day email contact for weeks), that after speaking with H’s therapist I still felt that I was trying to piece together three different jigsaw puzzles of the one child.

“There seems to be something missing because none of the pieces fit to make a whole?” I’d said. Continue reading Two becomes…none.

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How do you deal with the personal prying questions?

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It has been highly intriguing the difference in reactions to my adopting an older child vs. a younger child.

Some reactions from people have made me feel urm… strong emotions.

Here is the general response to my adopting an 18 month old: Continue reading How do you deal with the personal prying questions?

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Adoption foundation = grief and loss

It’s easy to forget that all adoption is built on a foundation of grief and loss.

I know that as I head into the next month of pre-placement visits and ultimately the placement of the two little girls that I am going to call my own, it’s very easy to get caught up in my own excitement and forget that these two little girls are going to lose – again – everything that they know to be theirs. Continue reading Adoption foundation = grief and loss

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With an open heart I evolve…

I didn’t post last week because I have been moving through so many emotions that made me feel like I should perhaps take a step back… a self-inflicted form of censorship really. I was scared to process too much online before I was feeling a sense of clarity again.

And now I feel I want to share some of that journey…

I received the proposal package a few weeks ago for the eldest of the three girls that may become my children as mentioned in the post “Paint the walls Pink!“.

H is the only child so far that has been cleared for adoption and so I received the proposal package for her alone.

Some of the information contained within the package was interesting, Continue reading With an open heart I evolve…

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Home Study – Approved!

One week ago today, my home study was signed off and I was officially approved as an adoptive parent!

I am APPROVED!!!

I want to thank my wonderful social worker for all of her encouragement, support, guidance, advice, acceptance, and the words of hope and wisdom she constantly shared with me. I feel so grateful that she is the one who is walking with me as we have journeyed from the first meeting to approval, and who will continue to walk with me as we move toward matching and placement.

Thank you for helping me to become approved to become a mommy!

What a year this has been!

When I went in to sign the papers, my social worker already had four sibling group profiles for me to consider (each one consisting of two children).

I ruled out one group right away based on the information she had, and we put my name forward for the other three.

None of these groups may work out, but it is exciting (and a little overwhelming) to imagine that I might soon be a mom to two or more children!

And so the matching process begins…! Continue reading Home Study – Approved!

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Your 10 Favourite Things: An exercise in understanding

 

Your 10 Favourite Things: An exercise in understanding children in care.

Right now, take a moment to think about your 10 favourite things in this life as it stands today.

These “things” could be people, places, pets, objects, pets, etc, whatever you would consider your 10 favourite things. Continue reading Your 10 Favourite Things: An exercise in understanding

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