2nd Be My Parent Event

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Saturday I went to my second Be My Parent matching event.

This is one of the smaller events, where they set up separate stations of the kids being profiled with laptops playing video or slideshows, along with a one page information sheet that is available to take home.

There were about 18 stations set up, spread out over 3 different rooms.

The event ran for 2 hours on two separate days (one weekday evening, one weekend day).

I went to the weekend day timeslot and arrived at the beginning – 11am. I found that my SW was there when I arrived and was so grateful! Thank you T for being there 🙂

Quite a few potential parents were milling around when I arrived, and it was a bit crowded in the main room.

I was in no hurry to be anywhere else Continue reading 2nd Be My Parent Event

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Profiles to consider

Last week my SW sent me two emails with profiles of children to consider.

Yay! Made my heart skip a beat to see these emails pop up and I feel a glimpse of hope.

One of the emails had photos attached. I have to admit I looked at the photos before I read the information, and wow… Cute! Oh my goodness, this little guy was melt-your-heart-cute! His face made me smile instantly.

Then I read his profile. Continue reading Profiles to consider

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Distance from the path

it-feels-as-though-IveRecently we had an annual festival in my town, and I am heavily involved both at an organisational committee level and as a volunteer through the weekend.

This time I was also “official photographer” for the festival website.

What was interesting to me this year which differed from the last few years was that I did not connect the festivities with my future adoption. Continue reading Distance from the path

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Should I become a foster mom?

The-foster-parents-I (1)This is a question I have asked myself since the very first conversation I had about adoption nearly 3 years ago. The person I was talking with was a foster care social worker and encouraged me to consider foster care as well as adoption.

She told me about the large need for foster homes in my community, which I have to admit, surprised me. I live in a relatively small town, with a relatively ‘small-town’ mentality (everyone knows someone who knows everyone), and it had never occurred to me that there would be a need for foster parents so much as to be a lack of them.

At that time becoming a foster parent didn’t appeal to me except as a possibility for the distant future, though I will admit, I didn’t know much about foster parenting, nor had I met a foster parent (at least not knowingly).

Since then, Continue reading Should I become a foster mom?

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Meet The Earl

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On Friday I brought home a furry four legged little man named Earl Grey, a.k.a. The Earl, a.k.a. Earl, a.k.a. Lord Grey, a.k.a. Buddy, a.k.a. Love Bug, a.k.a. You Are Such A Good Boy, a.k.a. Love-bug, a.k.a. My Little Snuggle-Buns.

Yep…He is pretty awesome!

Pretty AND Awesome…!…Look at those big green eyes!

He was named at the SPCA and while most people who I’ve talked with have immediately aligned the name Earl Grey with the tea of the same name, I can tell you now he is way too regal to be compared with a mere tea… he is definitely a Lord in stature and in nature! Continue reading Meet The Earl

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The feel of a newborn

new babyLast week my friend and co-worker gave birth to a precious little baby girl 🙂

Little K.E. joined her family on May fourth and became little sister to two year old A.J. Both parents are ecstatic to have two healthy, happy, little girls in their family. And I am overjoyed for them.

While I have only known my friend for a little over a year, we seemed to be kindred spirits and hit it off from that very first meeting. She feels like family, and that makes her family also feel like family.

I was privileged to be a part of this pregnancy pretty much from the day after they decided to start trying for their second child. I was also privy to the news of the pregnancy as soon as they found out and I had to keep the secret right along with them, until it was time to share it.

I got to watch her grow and change and go through the motions (like sickness) and emotions (like tears), and the whole experience has been an incredible honour for me in ways I’m not certain I have the vocabulary to share.

Especially as someone who may never get to experience the gift of creating life within my own body. Continue reading The feel of a newborn

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Caged bird

I am currently on vacation from work… woop-woop!

Never have I needed time off as much as I did this time around because I’ve never before worked in a job like the one I have right now.

I feel a bit like a slave to my employer. Overtime has become a part of my everyday existence for at least 3 weeks out of every month, and I don’t like it. Continue reading Caged bird

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The waiting game

In a post from about a month ago I briefly outlined the twins that I was drawn to at the Be My Parent – matching event.

They were, at the time, 18 months old (likely closer to 20 months now), a boy and a girl whose names start with M, and have an Aboriginal background. In the last post I mentioned that they were looking for a cultural match so I may not be considered, however, I have re-read the profile many times since then and it states only that a cultural match is preferred, which to me means that it is not essential. So this has increased my hope of being the right match for these two.

Though my social worker has sent several emails to the guardianship workers for M & M, we are still waiting to hear if I will be considered as a potential match for them, or if they have another potential match already.

So now we play… the waiting game. Continue reading The waiting game

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Occupational Therapy

The Occupation of Living

Last week I attended a webinar on Occupational Therapy in Adoption through the Adoptive Families Association of BC (AFABC).

Before attending the webinar I didn’t really know what an Occupational Therapist (OT) did, or that they also worked with children and not just adults.

I had thought that an “Occupational” Therapist only worked with those of us who had a job…or an “occupation”. Continue reading Occupational Therapy

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My mom

The-desire-to-adopt-inMy Mom (or mum, where I grew up)

So I have been thinking a little about my mom lately, she has popped into my mind a few times in the last couple of weeks and each time I think about writing to her again.

But, what to say?

She hasn’t responded to the last three cards (with enclosed letters) I’ve sent.

In fact, we haven’t spoken since the “India fiasco” of 2013. (Too much of a story to write for you here, but it may appear in the memoir Mother, My.) Though, full-disclosure, I may have received a birthday card that same year from her but I am not certain…it’s been a long time.

The last words I said verbally to her were “you are making me feel so angry right now” followed by a hang up of the phone.

Right now those words send little rivers of silent tears down my cheeks to pool just under my chin. I hope that her sometimes addled mind has forgotten those words and remembers instead kinder words from a different time. Continue reading My mom

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