NaNoWriMo

NaNo-2015-Winner-BannerFor the first time in my life, I participated in the NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month).

NaNoWriMo is an online community of writers who come together in November of every year, for at least the past 15 years (maybe longer), and make it their goal that for this month they will start writing a new novel and write at least 50,000 words.

This equates to 1667 words per day.

Thirteen days into the month I cracked 50,000 words! 51,348 to be precise!

My total for the month? 116,364 words!

Continue reading NaNoWriMo

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Celebration of Life

I went to a Celebration of Life this past weekend.

My friend’s husband went to sleep one night and did not wake up. He was in his 40’s and she is in her 30’s.

Listening to his closest friends and his family talking about the man he was in life and the man he was to them individually was deeply moving.

It made me think about the shortness of life, the fragility, the necessity to seize every moment and make it the best you can make it.

The time we have on this earth is, for the most part, unknown.

Some people choose their exit consciously, sure, but most of us go along in our day-to-day business as though we have unlimited time.

And even when we’re aware that our time is getting shorter – such as reaching a milestone age like: 30, or 40, or 50, or 60, and so on, we still feel that our time is at least more than today, more than tomorrow, more than this week, or this month, or this year.

The result is we live life accordingly, as though Continue reading Celebration of Life

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Adoption Education Program (AEP)

Three weeks ago I started the final piece of the adoption approval puzzle, the Adoption Education Program (AEP) run by the Adoptive Families Association of BC (AFABC) – https://www.bcadoption.com/education.

While I cant reproduce the content, or talk about it specifically – as I signed a nondisclosure agreement at the beginning of the course – I would still like to share how I’m feeling abut the things that I’m learning.

So far, the past weeks have been powerful, challenging, and sometimes confronting.

I’ve gained a clearer understanding of the loss involved in adoption for the child, for the biological family, the foster parents, and even for the adoptive parents. Continue reading Adoption Education Program (AEP)

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The seeds we sow

Since starting the adoption process about 10 months ago, I’ve been more aware of the stories I tell myself, the words I use over and over again, the beliefs that I hold, and questioning how they affect my life.

Do these stories enhance my life or do they limit me?

I was talking the other day with a friend and we got onto the subject of rice.

He told me how rice lasts forever once you cook it. He said, “You can keep it for weeks after cooking it.”

I replied, “Oh no you can’t! It’s a big germinator. It’s got a very short life. Two days in the fridge, three max.” Continue reading The seeds we sow

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Trying Differently Rather Than Harder

This past week I read the book called “Trying Differently Rather Than Harder – Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorders” by Diane Malbin, M.S.W.

This easy to read, easy to understand, book is only 80 pages including references and appendices, but it is jam-packed full of useful information and insights.

The book is broken into five sections: Continue reading Trying Differently Rather Than Harder

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The Future – Travelling with kids

I love travel.

I love the excitement of seeing something new. I love the actual “travelling” part of travel – the flight, or the car ride, or the motion of a ship when on a cruise.

I love being in motion.

And I love experiencing the incredible beauty in the world with its magnificent colours and the ever changing landscapes.

Sampling foods is another enjoyable part of travel for me – not to the extremes, you won’t catch me eating live grubs or anything – but tasting the flavours of each location even in everyday foods is another part of travel that I enjoy (note: pizza is not the same the world over!). Continue reading The Future – Travelling with kids

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Adoption – Courses – Siblings in Adoption Part 2

Online course offered by AFABC Presented by Randy Simpson and Cathy Gilbert Hosted by Erin Melvin, AFABC

Rider: My notes here are written as the sessions flowed for me and are about the subjects that caught my attention. These sessions held much more information than is presented here and discussions were often driven by the course participants and their questions. If you are considering adoption and either have children already or are interested in adopting siblings then I would highly recommend attending this course.

Click here for my Part 1 overview.

This second session in the series focused more on adopting a sibling group, rather than extending an existing family through adoption.

We started the course with some statistics about how many children were currently – at the time of the course – registered for adoption in BC (did not include kids in foster care).

The numbers were staggering: Continue reading Adoption – Courses – Siblings in Adoption Part 2

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Adoption – Third and final home study

As mentioned in the post last week, the third and final portion of the home study was completed at the coffee shop during our meeting about the therapist weigh-in.

In a coffee shop for me was not ideal, and definitely out of my comfort zone, but I guess parenting will be out of my comfort zone too! So best to get used to answering unusual personal questions in public spaces….right?!

We talked about a lot of things and the toughest question by far was this one:

If you die who will get your kids?  Continue reading Adoption – Third and final home study

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Adoption – Still on the path…

Therapist weighs in:

If you remember from the last post it had been suggested that I undertake therapy for the purposes of demonstrating I was sufficiently healed from my past and ready to be a mom.

When Theresa, my adoption social worker, emailed to book an appointment with me to discuss the next steps I was excited. This meant the therapist had weighed in with her and I would find out where we were now in the process.

However, I still had a tentatively booked appointment with the therapist for the weekend before the meeting with Theresa. So I called the therapist and asked her if we needed to keep the meeting.

She told me that she had provided her report to Theresa, so we cancelled the tentative appointment, and then followed up with “if you want to schedule an appointment after you have met with Theresa to discuss the outcome, I will be here for you.”

Uh… sure. Continue reading Adoption – Still on the path…

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Adoption – Therapy

When my social worker suggested an impromptu meeting after the second home study, I knew there was likely a ‘ruling’ from the things that were revealed.

To recap the second home study delved further into some of my background, where we discussed things like rape, my mother, being kicked out of home at 16, and some of the relationships I’d had since then.

At this meeting, my social worker suggested that to show that I’d come through all of those things and was now in this moment a healthy, stable, safe, option for an adoption placement, therapy would be required.

She asked me if I would consider this? Continue reading Adoption – Therapy

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